We all have that best friend that we truly love, or are always with. You go to the mall together, parties, functions, school, etc. you name it, and you two are always together. Some of us have the luxury of having more than just one friend we share this bond with. You may have a whole group, clique, and circle of friends that you hold dear to your heart. Whatever the case is most of us have someone we can count on at all times, because they got out back.
Thursday, August 5, 2010
We also have family that we can always count on. Some of us have an instant bond with our family. I mean it is kind of a big deal to share the same bloodline, to be genetically connected with someone. Some hold family on the highest regard, but some don’t have anyone to call family.
So allow me to put yourself in situation; hypothetically of course. You have a best friend who has been with you through thick and thin. You guys have shared so pain, fun, excitement, sadness, anger, etc. you guys are pretty much alike in so many different ways. You know each other inside and out, you literally call each brothers/sisters. Then you have your real sibling who you cannot stand. You guys never seen eye to eye. As a child he/she would consistently blame you for all his/her problems. This constant feud lasted until you were out the house. You guys seldom speak to each other except on holidays, birthdays, and special occasions. This divide causes your family to tear apart. So now you have a choice who would you pick? Is it more important that you guys share the same bloodline; I mean this is family, right? Or would you choose your friend who you have built up a bond with over time?
I mean we all “grew up” being “taught” that blood is thicker than water, which is true scientifically. The viscosity level of blood is greater than water. But does that apply in real life? Do you feel like its requirement to choose family over friends? Or do you base it on the bond that you build with each other, no matter if you’re a friend or a family member? I am not here to make you choose sides, but put things in perspective that you may not have before. So I hope you enjoyed, its been a while since my last. They’ll be readily posted once again.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
So what’s so bad about this? Our interpersonal relation skills are depleting dramatically. Some people aren’t even able to hold a 30 second conversation without stumbling over their words. Some people are even scared to make eye contact, a necessary skill when applying to a job. People are using these media sites and technologies as their main source of communication. The age of “in person” conversations has been “kicked to the curb” and communication through the technological mediums are increasing, while our social abilities suffer.
Technology is a double edge sword that has its benefits but comes along with negatives as well. I don’t think people realize how accustom we have gotten over time with these technologies that hinder our public speaking skills. I remember back in the day (yea I got two decades in this world and lived for three, figure it out) how we use to meet (bag/hook-up/ connect) people (girls) that I talked to in person. Not using facebook to “poke them” them (her). Do not get me wrong, I love these advancement in technologies, I would be a hypocrite if I said I didn’t. But I think a lot of people are forgetting the necessity in social interaction beyond the QWERTY pad / keyboard. With that said, before you pick up that phone to text or log into facebook, how about dialing that number and call to meet with that person instead. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be texting your boss in an interview, so get the practice now!
Monday, July 19, 2010
Some of you will not be able to relate completely to this entry, but some of you will. So at the end of it I hope that everyone can pull something out of it. This post is unlike the other posts, in that I will speak from my own personal experience throughout the entire blog. This will definitely be my most heartfelt blog to date, but bear with me as I may do a small amount of ranting in it.
Where do I start? Should I start at having to learn how to play sports by myself? Or should I start having to learn to ride a bike and picking myself up when I fell? No, I should start when I had to play catch alone. You know what’s even better, how about when I had to learn how to be a man myself. I didn’t have a fatherly figure to look up to. I didn’t have the chance to have those fathers to son conversations like most did. The phrase “father like son” doesn’t apply to me.
Father’s Day is the most difficult. I am constantly reminded of how everyone else’s father is there for their child. But I don’t celebrate Father’s day, Mother’s day comes around twice year in my house hold. Yea I wish and call my dad and say happy birthday like any other son would. But the appreciation for my mother is showed on this day as well.
It’s a lot more difficult than one thinks growing up without a father who is not consistently in your life. While many of you were being taught how to play sports by your father, I was teaching myself. While many of you were being molded on how to be a man, I was molding myself. My mom did a wonderful job raising me, but there are some things in life where a father role is necessary in a child’s life, and the mother can’t replicate it.
So this is not a rant to say I hate my dad, or anything this is more of a thank you. I learned what it takes to be a father from what was not there. The man upstairs has a funny way of demonstrating and teaching but it is a lessoned learned. I am not resentful in any shape, way, or form, I still have love for him, but not the same love I would have for him if he was more active in my life. So my message to you all is play an active role in your child/children life/lives you don’t understand how much you are need. Giving birth doesn’t make you a parent, playing the role does. So thank you dad for teaching me how to be a father in your own light, I still have love for you.
Sunday, July 18, 2010
There’s a list of conspiracy theories that many of you can think of, but there are many more facts that are proven to be true. So what’s the difference? The difference is facts are accepted across the board because there is evidence that proves them to be true. But before they were facts, they were theories, beliefs, and just idea as well. So why are people so quick to shun down all theories that don’t necessarily have the substantiation to prove them to be right… yet!
So why is media (how I can’t wait until I tackle them in a blog to come) and the general public constantly attacking any theory and putting it to shame right away? So often people are very dismissive when it comes to conspiracy theories or the unknown in general. A few famous conspiracy theories that seem to always be thrown out the window are the following:
3. 9/11 terrorist attacks
6. Here’s a big one: Religion
7. And the best of them all: Why is Meshawn so cool? ( we know he’s cool, but how can someone get that cool… cooler than the other side of the pillow)
The list can go on as we all may know. But why are we quick to shun things down is my question? I think its matter of man fearing the unknown (you should read my last blog). We want to know everything and prove it with science. But sometimes things aren’t that easy. Many people do not believe in ghosts but there are countless video tapes with sightings and testimonies from reliable sources, but there are still great deals of skeptics at hand. There are also a lot of critics when it comes to religion, but there are so many believers at the same time. Why can’t these theories be accepted without having hard evidence?
This leads to my main message (I think I’m going to have to switch up the format, I always wrap it up like this in the end “smh”) for this blog post. Absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence. Just because you do not have actual verification or can hold up to the scientific method, does not mean it not true. Majority of the times people who skeptics of these topics do not have to prove the theory false either. I am not saying to go around claiming all types of things or convert to scientology, but just realize that not everything in this world or universe is known. “Science” is constantly proving its own self wrong, and we are making new discoveries every day. So if you’re wondering how this applies to you, just think like this: “when are you too old to learn?”
Friday, July 16, 2010
Its been a while since I posted a new blog, so i decided to do one today... I may post another one to catch up, but it has been really positive week. So all those who follow my blog I hope you enjoy this one... Its a little different how I approach most of em, but we'll see how this works out.
“… fear what they don’t understand, hate what they can’t conquer, it’s just the furry of Man…”
- Nas , ‘ Hate Me Now’
I couldn’t have said it any better, well… yea I couldn’t. But I am not speaking about the fear you have for the boggie man nor do I speak of the conquistadors who conquered the Aztec natives (history 101 lesson). I am speaking in a more general sense. I consider these lyrics hold true in almost every setting.. The most frighten thing about it is the fact that we really don’t notice it on a daily basis. I know some of you are like “I ain’t scared of nothing!” or “my mom told me to love everyone the same.” But in reality we show hatred and fear more commonly than we think.
Have you ever walked into a party and felt really uncomfortable. You notice you are the only one that is anything like “you”. The music is different, the way people are dancing is different, and the way they speak to each is also much different than what you are use to. Everything about the atmosphere that you were currently in was strange and very unfamiliar. So you refrain from acclimating into the scene and you remain to yourself throughout the time. Instead of really learning about the difference, you were “scared” because you didn’t know anything about the scene. Many people face this fear when you go any strange setting. How many of you remember the first day school? Most of us were petrified. I remember seeing a few kids run out the classroom crying. Some of us had the same fear when going to college, but was able to have better control over our emotions (few students were running out the dorm crying I remember correctly... haha). Fearing the unknown is a general instinct of all humans and animals, but fearing is only one piece of it...
There’s this person (girl) you like, but for some reason whatever game (talk) you spit to that person (girl) it has no affect. You start to think like why isn’t this working; I mean had no trouble getting any other person (girl) I wanted to. So this goes on for a while and you are never successful. So next week you heard your friend hooked up with ‘em (girl) and you’re like “what???” You’re not mad at your friend but at that person (girl). What were you doing wrong, thinking to yourself like I am the master of seduction, so why was that person (girl) not under my trance? So you build animosity towards this person (girl) because you were unable to hit it off. This exemplifies the last half of the lyric quite well. Since you were unable to bag (hook-up) with that person you no longer like them, but in fact dislike them altogether. This story is made up of course (thought I was speaking from personal experience? Right), but this happens far too often. If you are not on top, deep down inside you tend to have some hatred to whatever is oppressing you. I used that example because most people have done it or seen it before. There are many examples throughout history where man hates what he cannot conquer.
So the overall point of this piece is to not fear the unknown but accept it, and not to hate what you can’t overcome. There’s too much to learn, in this small amount of time we have on this earth. We cannot be fearful of what we do not understand but learn to embrace it. As well hating what we can’t conquer, we must learn that nothing fosters from hatred. Take the time to be loving, caring, and respectful to everyone and everything. If you can’t beat it the first time keep trying until you can, except if you start looking like a creeper (referencing the example above). So enjoy and live life. I am going to end on this quote that I seen on twitter from one of my peers; I think this makes sense in this setting:
“Fear is consequence of negative thought…”
Monday, July 12, 2010
So this post was inspired by a motivational speaker by the name of Ed Gerety , if you haven’t heard of him check him out, he’s really good. He speaks to the incoming freshman class here at Bentley University every year during orientation. But this past orientation was the first time I heard him (yea I was an OL but didn’t go to my own orientation, #dontjudge; I had to re-live the experience haha). The entire presentation was great, but there was this one piece of it that really sunk in. He started to go down memory lane…
Rugrats, Yo-yo’s, Transformers, Hey Arnold, CatDog, Prince of Bel’Air, Johnny Bravo, Chuck E. Cheese, Discovery zone, Cousin Skeeter, Etc. The list can go on for days, everything that was a part of my childhood was mentioned pretty much. It made sit and reminisce on the past. I honestly I haven’t done it in a while. American culture so fast paced you don’t necessarily have time to reflect, you are to worry about the now and if not your mind is constantly thinking about the future. If not that also it is usually blurred with some type of substance and you don’t remember anyway (#shoutout to college soda, happy hour, and any other reason to consume that stuff; #domtjudge).
As we took a ride down memory lane, he mentioned the importance of staying in tuned with your childhood and to keep your imagination. I took this advice to heart. So I started to imagine I had powers, and started running downtown Boston shooting imaginary laser beams at people! (haha, I really did, but to myself). But seriously I started to think creatively and gave myself some more me time (and no I am not speaking about me doing the jerk, the dance haha). I can honestly say this sparked my interest in writing blogs, along with persuasion of my brother.
So the point I am really trying to make is you have to remove yourself from the now sometimes. Not necessarily dwell on the past, but reflect. Also make sure you use your imagination, it really makes you feel young again. Like Ed Gerety said, we constantly find ourselves in the same daily routine. Quoting him “have you ever walked in the shower and find yourself washing your body in the same exact order you do all the time?” yea we all do. So get out of sync, and enjoy the randomness on occasions.